The following is a modified example of a parent communication from the MHSAA.
Dear Parent:
I have been entrusted with your child for 2-4 hours a day for the next four months. During that time they will run, jump, shoot, dribble, sweat, laugh, cry, pout, push themselves to exhaustion, learn sportsmanship, learn the rules of the game, learn something new about basketball or themselves each day, get angry with themselves, get angry with a teammate, get angry with the coach, learn to deal with their emotions, learn teamwork and go home in a good mood or a bad mood each day.
As their coach I will learn that my players are either in shape or out of shape, leaders or followers, good shooters or not so good shooters, good ball handlers or not so good ball handlers, aggressive or not very aggressive, able to follow directions or not able to follow directions, good sports or not so good sports, able to deal with disappointment or not able to deal with disappointment, quick learners or not so quick, able to accept their role on the team or not able to and I will go home each day in a good mood or a bad mood.
We are in this together. There will be extreme highs after big wins or outstanding individual performances. There will be extreme lows after heartbreaking losses or dreadful performances. I will have to deal with each player in a different way in all these situations since they are all different individuals. I have experience as a coach. I am not a psychologist although at times I must try to be one. I do not have all the answers. I will not be able to push all the right buttons at the right time. But I will make decisions based on what is best for the team. It might not be best for an individual, but since that individual is part of the team, he must understand and accept it.
I will make my decisions based on hours of contact with your son. I see them in school. I see them in the gym. I see them in the locker room. I see them on the team bus. I get to know them very well. I know their strengths and their weaknesses when it comes to basketball. They will know their place on this basketball team. They might not be happy with that place, but they have an opportunity every day in practice to bring about change. Their playing time will be in direct correlation with how well they do in practice. How they perform in practice will determine how much playing time they get.